Trial Separations - Between Marriage and Divorce

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A trial separation is what most people call a prelude to divorce. Without legalities, couples agree to separate physically for a certain period of time to let them work things out with their marriage. This period is a crucial time for both couples. Marriages are made or broken during a separation.

But before you embark on a trial separation, here are a few advantages and disadvantages that you should know about:

PROS

1. A trial separation can give couples a chance to develop and improve self-responsibility. It is different when you live together; mistakes spouses make can easily be blamed on the other partner. But when you are both apart, you become accountable for your own actions.

2. This period can give couples the space and time to clear their heads and get a look at the bigger picture. When heads are hot and tempers are steaming, rushed decisions are most likely made. But with a clear head, couples can now properly evaluate their situation and hopefully come up with a better decision regarding their relationship.

CONS

1. Trial separations are not ideal for couples who simply want to "take a break" and who are not taking the idea of divorce seriously. Why? Because instead of working things out in your marriage together, you are drawn further apart by the physical distance between you and your partner.

2. When divorce is inevitable (especially when physical abuse or repetitive infidelity is involved), trial separations tend to be fruitless.

3. If you or your spouse plan to meet or have intimate relationships with other people during this time, then you're better off getting a divorce than wasting your time.

4. If you are unwilling to adjust to make your relationship work then a trail separation is fruitless and a divorce becomes unavoidable.

Trial separations are a gray area between divorce and patching things up in a marriage. These times are important and emotionally heavy for everyone involved.  If have one, be as encouraging and as reassuring as you can with your children. Make them understand the reasons both of you are taking this "time-off" in your marriage.

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This article was published on 2010/03/27
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